I'm no stranger to hard work. And I'm sure that you aren't either.
But what do you do when the things you're doing to make your marriage work are wearing you out and driving you even further apart?
I felt like this for the first several years of my marriage. Working full time. Raising babies. And doing it all alone.
I was frustrated, exhausted, and emotionally depleted. And talking to my husband about my concerns just made things worse.
He wanted a gold star for being a better partner than what he imagined most men are. And I wanted a spouse that could step up without being asked, reminded, and praised for showing up.
Marriage counseling didn't really help. We'd smooth things over for a while only to end up back in the same place a few months later - with even more baggage and resentment than before.
I needed to make some fundamental changes to my marriage. Changes that most couples therapy modalities are simply not built to achieve.
It wasn't until I learned to:
clearly define what I wanted
compassionately confront how I was getting in my own way
advocate for the marriage we both deserved, and
learn new patterns for communicating and connecting
That things started to shift.
I learned that I didn't have to be a bully to get my needs met and I didn't need to be a doormat to get my husband to treat me better.
I'd like to share that with you. I think you'll find it practical, optimistic, and refreshing to work this way.
The key to getting what you want in your relationships is to know what it looks like. But for many women, that's not a question they've ever been invited to explore.
We start by taking a closer look at what a marriage you want would look like AND how it fits into your unique values & purpose.
We'll take a closer look at why everything you've tried already hasn't worked how you want it to and what you can do instead.
You'll learn why you keep getting sucked into the same unproductive arguments (even when you see it coming) and how to plan ahead for a better outcome next time.
It's finally time to start taking action and trying new approaches to the challenges that have left you feeling stuck and frustrated for far too long.
This is where you prove your commitment to making the marriage you want a reality by following through and doing things differently.
If you want a great relationship, you've got to be relational. And that includes seeing what others are putting out there and responding to it.
In this final step, you'll reflect on what you've learned about yourself, how others are responding to your new approach, and make adjustments to create even more alignment and connection.
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I am a Gottman 7 Principles Leader and I have trained with some of the leading experts on marriage relationships including Esther Perel and Terry Real.
My work is heavily informed by Terry Real and my education in Relational Life Therapy to:
compassionately confront & show individuals and couples what's not working
uncover the source of negative beliefs and behaviors, and
model and teach healthier, more productive behaviors
I combine my personal life experience, my education and training in relationships, and my previous professional experience as a project engineer, team lead, and tutoring center director to create a very compassionate, practical, and optimistic experience for my clients.
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Learn how to successfully navigate the challenge of communicating your needs and addressing your concerns with courage & compassion.
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How to speak up with love, instead of blowing up or sweeping issues under the rug.
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